Saturday, September 18, 2021

I had a major anxiety attack yesterday.

It's been a while since I experienced an anxiety attack - like a real one. The kind where your chest feels heavy, you can feel your heart beating hard against your chest, everything is hazy and flecked with gray, and you're gasping for breath.

Syrena was downstairs in her online class and I didn't want to disturb her. I didn't want her to know that I was suffering. Tears fell as I closed my eyes and prayed. And cried. And prayed.

20 minutes feel like an eternity when you experience an anxiety attack and when it's done, you don't feel relieved. You get anxious again. You worry that another attack will happen and you worry that next time, it'll be worse.

You scour your medicine boxes and hope you have something to calm you down. And when you find the right one, you worry that it's too early to take it and that taking it will knock you out for the rest of the day.

Of course, that can't happen. You have a child who depends on you. You have meals to prepare. You have homework to check. You have a dog to feed. You have a home to clean. You have work to finish. Deadlines to meet.

So you suffer through it. And you survive.

Not a lot of people talk about how difficult it is to be mentally unwell. While I haven't had episodes like these too often since we moved to our own place, I've realized that they're much harder to deal with now. Because I have been so at peace, I no longer know what to do when I'm not.

I couldn't even bring myself to talk to people. Because no words were coming out of my mouth. I spent the entire day in silence, staring at walls, at random items in the house. Syrena asked if I was okay and I admitted that I wasn't. But that I would be. Eventually. Hopefully.

As my mind reeled about the uncertainty of our future (long story short: I lost a job that made up a humongous chunk of my livelihood), only two people came to mind who could really help. Both lead very hectic lives and I wasn't expecting to hear back from them. But one came through for me.

And as I panicked and released all of my pent-up emotions, he stayed calm and reminded me who I am and what I can do; and sometimes, that's all you really need in life: someone who believes in you when you don't. Someone who sees the greatness you have to offer when you've forgotten it. Someone you would trust with your life.

Find that person. Preferably a few, if you can. And then pull yourself out of that funk and reach out. Reach. Out. You can't do this alone. And that's okay. Reaching out doesn't make you weak. It's a necessity to ensure that you make it through. And that's all that matters.

Thursday, September 16, 2021

Ways to Enhance Your Budget and Reduce Stress

Ever since moving out, money has been more important for me than ever. I don't think I've ever obsessed over bills and budgeting more than I have right now. With monthly bills, tuition, and other essentials to think about, I've had to rack my brain on how to enhance my budget without stressing myself out too much. And that's where this article comes in.

Ways to Enhance Your Budget and Reduce Stress

Take a Step Back.

The first thing you should know and always remember is that this process shouldn't stress you out at all, to be honest. Don't let your budget rule your life and work with what you can. If you have debt that you need to take care of (like credit card debt - hello, me!), the first thing you should do is take a step back and reevaluate your priorities. Only then should you adjust accordingly. Figure out what you want to do first, what you want to take care of first, and the best way to deal with it. Most importantly: relax and don't sweat it too much. Let's face it: there's no make-money-quick scheme out there that will make these problems go away, so you might as well take things a step at a time.

Avoid More Debt.

Another important thing to do is to make sure that you don't fall into even more debt. Is your credit card bill stressing you out? Then cut your credit card in half and don't use it again. This might seem like a shock; but unless you get rid of that bit of plastic that you've been relying on so much, the chances of you falling into even more debt will simply increase in time. Get rid of it.

Take Note of Your Expenses.

Now, this next step is something that I've been telling a lot of my friends to do. It'll either sound super simple or intimidating; but either way, it needs to be done. Whether you prefer keeping a physical notebook to track your expenses or want to download an app for it, make sure you take note of all of your expenses. Doing this will help you figure out what you are spending unnecessary money on and will help you keep your money on track.

Remember: the only person who can really help you with your budget is yourself. So, no matter how intimidating the process might seem, now is the best time to start getting a hold of your finances and moving towards a debt-free and stress-free future.

For more tips on budgeting, click here.

Monday, August 23, 2021

Why We Currently Swear By Co Ord Sets

My baby girl is no longer a baby and it took my orders from Femme Luxe to come in for me to accept it.

I ordered some Co Ord Sets from Femme Luxe and when I was opening the package, she actually said, "Can I try them on?" I was in shock. Syrena never really showed any interest in clothes, let alone Co Ord Sets so I let her try them on - and they fit her perfectly. (In fact, they looked even better on her! :p)

So, since she instantly fell in love with their Co Ord Sets, it looks like we'll be shopping together on Femme Luxe quite often now.

The clothes that Syrena and I have been buying lately have greatly changed compared to the clothes we used to buy pre-pandemic.

While we used to go for cool and chic outfits to wear outdoors, being stuck at home all day has caused us to search for outfits that we can actually be comfortable wearing at home all day yet still look cute enough to make us less depressed about the situation that we're in. Co Ord Sets happen to be a great way to break the monotony of everyday stuck-at-home life.

Be a certified co-ord cutie with Femme de Luxe's collection of Co Ord Sets. No matter what you've got going on at home - be it an online meeting, an e-numan session, a live stream, a video call with family, friends, or even your crush - these Co Ord Sets have got you covered. They're comfy yet still look good enough to be worn in practically any virtual setting.

Need to walk the dog? Pick up groceries? Get orders from a Grab rider? These Co Ord Sets are cute enough to be worn out, too.

Femme Luxe's Co Ord Sets are designed with you in mind so you can be sure to look good from every angle. If this sporty look isn't your style, they also have smart Co Ord Sets like blazers with a more professional style. They also have summer Co Ord Sets that you can wear if you miss the beach and wanna dress the part at home. They even have bodysuit and skirt Co Ord Sets that are perfect for dates if that's what you're on the lookout for.

Shop for the perfect Co Ord Sets for you at Femme Luxe!